Jakko Smit (1969), Trauma therapist

Loneliness is a theme I know very well. I come from a Reformed family in the Netherlands, with parents born in 1931 and 1936. I’m the youngest of four children. Materially, I lacked for nothing, but emotionally, I did. I had a paralyzing fear of my father; my mother was present, and yet … emotionally absent. Until I was 35, I could only “feel” with my mind.

During and shortly after graduating at 24, I didn’t want to live anymore. I sought help from a psychotherapist. Three years later, I sought help again. At 25, I had my first serious relationship. The relationship brought many positive things, but it didn’t help me escape my loneliness, my feeling of being trapped in a haze. There was always a haze between me and others, between me and the world, even in company. Six years later, the relationship proved insurmountable to my inability for intimacy and vulnerability.

In 2005, I met Suze. That was the beginning of a different life. Although I experienced it immediately, my past weighed heavily on my neck. Everything I had learned and trained to survive seemed to get in the way… and proved to be persistent. Little by little, through many crises and despair, and with much help, training, and introspection, I emerged from my inability to experience intimacy.

I have since completed the two-year Integrative Trauma Therapy program. I have helped numerous clients. In 2022, I published a novel titled B&B. The loneliness is behind me. I am an open book, but everywhere I go, I connect. My greatest strength is to approach and invite others from an undefended state.

My specialties are developmental trauma or childhood trauma and relationship issues.

Contact: jakko@suzemaclainepont.com 

 “Working with Jakko through somatic sessions was a powerful and healing experience. His quiet presence and attuned guidance created a safe container where I could fully process and release trauma. He doesn’t overtalk or overexplain; instead, his words are intentional, effective, and exactly what’s needed in the moment. The tools he offered are ones I can continue to use independently as new releases occur. Jakko’s approach is respectful, grounded, and deeply supportive. Much gratitude.“

Christine Brassington